Pretending will rob you of joy.I've always struggled with not fitting in. One place I really did not fit in was Ibiza. The partying, the funny hours, the crazy energy, everyone being late ALL the time, the flakiness...... This past week I was on holiday there, and after a couple of days all this came flooding back to me: I don't belong here. I love the beach, the music, the sunsets, my friends, the scenery, the sunshine. But a lot of it just doesn't work for me.Truthfully? I am much, much happier living in Tunbridge Wells. I am not a cool, fashionable, social person. I loathe small talk. But accepting myself as this, rather than desperately trying to be something I'm not has been part of my journey of self discovery and self love.